Wednesday, July 9, 2025

Adulting for middle-class, urban youth ( in Bangalore)

 Adulting for middle-class, urban youth ( in Bangalore)


Even since I discovered the word "adulting" , and read articles on adulting, I have been impressed that someone finally recognized what is going on, coined a word for this. Not only has Adulting been recognized, acknowledged and named, there are also classes on adulting! (in a couple of universities in Ontario, as far as I know)

What follows below, is about the need for adulting for middle class youth of Bangalore (I know about 50 youth here: relatives and kids of friends and neighbours).
There is a HUGE need for adulting classes or adulting for Bangalore middle class youth(BMCY from now)

Parents I know, seem to believe that their children have to succeed in life and that life would be IMPOSSIBLE if they failed

The definition of success for most BMCY's parents seems to be : become a professional such as a doctor, software engineer or dentist. Earn well. Go abroad for higher studies and settle in USA, Australia, Canada.. Get married and have kids, a house, car, etc

This is such a narrow definition of success .(It you study arts, and become an artist or work in retail; if you study social work and become a social worker, etc you are considered as "less successful" or maybe even a 'failure' in comparison of the youth who tread the narrow path to what is recognized as success. 
If you don't go abroad, you are less successful; if you are gay or prefer to remain a bachelor, you are a failure; if you cannot afford to own a house and you rent, you are a failure. You are a less successful youth if you study nursing or any paramedical science or get a Diploma in engineering instead of a Bachelor's degree in engineering)

This is how the mind set works for majority of BMCY parents. Therefore to make their kids succeed, the kids are forced to spend all their school-years,  studying and given no time to learn life skills, to play, spend time on hobbies and interests, etc. They definitely do not do household chores,  or do minimally. (Girls, have a little better self-reliance as they probably strive to escape patriarchal domination by learning skills necessary to become independent)
My friends' sons: I have 3 friends with sons, who have finished their education and are married and working now. None of these boys have ever (or rarely) done their own laundry, cooked, paid bills, swept or vacuumed their own rooms. None of them have contributed financially to the household once they got jobs and continued to live with their parents. (Incidentally, all three are living iwth their wives in their parents homes with their parents...I don't object to this as the joint family arrangement is working for these three guys..to most extent)Servants or mothers did these jobs...now their wives or servants do these chores. 

Due to various reasons, several skills such as fixing a bike which is broken, a household implement which is broken, is a mystery to majority of people in India. Fixing broken doors, windows, a leaky roof, etc are also skills which most people lack; It's not just a lack of skills: it is lack of affordable and available tools and most importantly, a lack of curiosity and interest in knowing how things work, why things breakdown, etc. I am simply appalled by the lack of curiosity I see in majority of Indian children. 


After the Modi government came into power, I have seen such a huge regression in critical thinking in India. Huge increase in religiosity, belief in superstition and scientific thinking and rationale kicked to the curb. This regressive mindset too has affected youth. Examples: Instead of studying effectively   (studying from the beginning of the course, clarifying what they dont understand, practicing, doing actual experiments to learn instead of rote memorizing), students seem to pray, offer money, etc to Gods and temples to pass in exams...they don't study but they pray!

People's lack of critical thinking is rampant and visible in all aspects of life, across all strata of society: even "educated" Indians lack critical thinking. Several aspects of 'adulting or learning critical life skills is impossible without critical thinking". 

Regarding the interpersonal life skills which BMCY need, but lack:
Communication: Communication skills are  not great in many families due to the interpersonal warfare going on in many houses and so poor role models  for BMCY (Most people don't seek help professional to fix their relationships) The patriarchy in many homes makes for terrible communication styles and interpersonal relationships between those who wield power in the family and the powerless. The controlling behaviours, rudeness, refusal to acknowledge when they are in the wrong, by the power holders leads to the same sick pattern of relationships and communication among the BMCY.

Social skills: BMCY are exposed to  role models with poor social skills. Housewives who are disrespectful to the servants; men rude, condescending, contemptuous,  & disrespectful to their wives, subservient behaviours by wives to husbands and in-laws while resenting them in private, and many such sick behaviours are witnessed by BMCY  all through their childhoods and teen years. How are they going to learn better social skills? They are also exposed to Indian movies and TV shows which depict atrocious behaviours. (because the producers think that decency is boring and atrocious behaviours is the only way to gain more viewers).

There is also the belief among the upper middle class that "we can hire people todo things. There is no need for me to learn" . This terrible attitude is one of the main causes of ignorance among rich BMCY and their families.

I have seen BMCY, with masters degrees in medicine, engineering, arts, etc who lack  basic life skills. They would fall on the developmentally delayed list, if they were administered a adaptive functions scale!
Another pet peeve of mine about BMCY is the narrowness of their interests and knowledge. There is neither breadth nor depth to their knowledge, whether it is bookish knowledge or practical skills.

I know of at least 5 BMCY who don't read novels, who don't know anything about the politics of the country or the world, who have zero practical skills and have always had a parent, servant or others do stuff for them. These 5 rankle me (they are nice youth actually!) a lot because, when I asked them, when they were in their twenties, what is their favorite book, and they said "Tinkle" ! (it's a comic for young children). If they is where their level of literature appreciation is at, God save India!

I am also aware of a few (thank God, not many) parents who are proud of their children's ignorance! ("My daughter does not know how to cook. Her husband cooks for her"; " "I never learned driving, we have always had a driver"; I dont know anything about taxes, My husband does all that")
How can you ever become an adult, in the true sense of the word, if you are proud of your ignorance of basic life skills?

Other major contributors to lack of adult life skills in BMCY are because:
Indian education system is failing youth of India
Parents are failing the youth of India. 
Indian government, the state governments are failing the youth of India
The mass media (movies and TV shows) are failing the youth of India.

Tuesday, July 8, 2025

The Order: Movie on amazon prime

 I am watching this movie , THE ORDER now and reminded again how exceedingly beautiful the USA's geography is!

And I am also realizing this beauty is being destroyed by Trump...he's  throwing away the protections the wild parts of USA had.... selling forest land to developers...Trump is the kind of guy who will prostitute his daughters, his grandkids, wife and mother for cash. He has zero morals, 100% impunity and is proud when he is pissing on anything good. Hope he rots in hell for eternity

Monday, July 7, 2025

Rosetta McClain Gardens, near Scarborough Bluffs visit

Yesterday, Sunday, July 6, 2025 visited the Rosetta Gardens in Toronto. It's a lovely garden, today, I mean this time of the year, the rose garden was in full bloom with at least 5 varieties of roses. 
This is a quiet garden, with few visitors (at least yesterday) and there are several benches all over the garden, where one can sit and relax. One can see the vast Ontario lake from above (this garden is above the bluffs). It's worth a visit. 
But not if you are going by TTC! I took over 2 hours to reach this garden due to the poor TTC service yesterday...every weekend the TTC service is horrible. I had to take shuttle bus as the subway was not working and then wait for several minutes to get onto the bus which goes to the garden





 














Above are photos of a building where the garden seems to have grown inside and where somme walls have disappeared. I loved this spot!
I went alone to this garden...wish I had had someone to take a photo of me sitting between the 4 huge ? trunks ? branches of this tree. 
Above is a large gazebo ...I could sit here daily and read my books and not miss my phone at all






The roses from the rose garden above


Saturday, June 28, 2025

the connection between Trump's tongue and Trump's brain, (or what is supposedly a brain) is broken

 Therefore, Trump talking is like a wheel, which has come off a moving vehicle and rolling down the hill, willy-nilly. 


Trump's stupidity and evil was garnering attention, anger, despair; ...but as it continues endlessly, it's making people feel both bored and hopeless at the same time. 


Waiting for Trump to finally be imprisoned, impeached or #$%^*+

Talk about rabies

 Q: What do you do with a rabid  dog ?

A: Terminate it. Kill it. Euthanize it.

Q: What do you do with a rabid president?

A: Oh! You mean Trump?

Q: Yes

A: Gee...we negotiate I suppose

Q: Does it work?

A: Not really.

Q: Then what's the point?

A: I dont really know

Q: So, what you are saying is, if the US has a rabid president, he simply continues being the president?

A: I suppose...gee...I dont kow how to answer that!

Tuesday, June 24, 2025

comedy one needs today to get away from/ avoid/recover from/from Trump's evil

 


 comedy skits

Rudy Ayub

Guido Gagootz

Elaine Carroll 


I will add to this list as I discover them.

The world needs more of these guys (and ladies) above and less of Trump, Vance, Putin, etc


I have been watching Very Mary Kate (Elaine Carroll's comedy) for the last two hours. They are so funny! I love Mary Kate, her bodyguard and her poor professor! Hope she continues to make these skits forever!



Monday, June 23, 2025

Things I had not thought off, before my swimming lessons

 For the first time in my life, I started taking swim lessons this year (Feb 2025)

After several hours of swimming (lessons I mean: I still cant swim) I started realizing that what is shown in movies makes it really hard for the actors doing the swim scenes.

1) swim caps: The lovely lady actresses with long blonde (or black) hair swimming in the sea/pool or river in the movies and TV shows, swim WITHOUT the caps. I find it impossible to swim without the cap as my hair gets in my eyes and if I stop to push my hair back I start sinking as I have stopped kicking! And, I actually have pretty short hair and not long enough to really block my eyes! With swim cap, I am definitely not photgenic!

2) Swim goggles:  Without the swim goggles on, I close my eyes when swimming. Period. Even if I try to keep my eyes open, I can't see much or I can't keep my eyes open for long in the water. ..Barely a couple of seconds. 

Also, without the swim goggles, my eyes turn  red (due to chlorine?) and it takes hours after stepping out of the pool for my eyes to stop being red.

 When I wear the swimming goggles, as I often do, they leave an ugly mark round my eyes as they are tight. I look quite awful after I take off the swim goggles, until the marks disappear. Definitely not photogenic!  These marvellous actors swim with eyes open in the water, unprotected by goggles and look gorgeous! How the hell they do that!

3) The two old swim suits I have make my belly look awfully fat! The new one I got from Joe Fresh, improved my looks but one  b... had popped out when I was doing the back stroke and I did not realize that ! The male coach, treading water next to me was probably too embarrassed to tell me and the female coach, at the other end of the pool came running to tell me to pop my b back into my bikini top! 

This incident made me realize that the swim suits and bikinis which look gorgeous in the photos are impractical for swimming! Parts of your body will pop out of the clothing piece, because of a range of different things:  strong currents in the water, with the different kicks and arm pulls you make, etc. For example, my skirt keeps floating up if I am near one of  water return jets. My thin strap constantly falls off my shoulder and I have to keep pushing it up. (Though it is the right size)

4)  I enjoyed as much as anything else, the swimming scenes in movies, the water scenes, boating, etc but  had not given much thought to these issues...until I started my swim lessons. I now realize that what looks so damn easy and effortless (swimming) is actually hard: one needs strength and skill which is 'not naturally present in me' but I need to practice, practice, practice, do exercises to improve my strength, change my diet and also change my thinking, behaviour and emotions! I need to stop worrying that I look like a fool and others are mocking me and focus on learning the skill; I need to be disciplined enough to reach the pool on time, not miss classes, etc. I need to pay attention and 'obey' instead of trying to do something else (thinking I know better and what the coach says will not work)

5) Only after my swim lessons did I learn so many facts (I have been seeing youtube videos and reading up a lot after I started the swim lessons).  Before my swimming, I did not know facts such as 

1) Human bodies float! They don't sink!( I always thought if I drown, I will be at the bottom of the pool because my body is heavy)

2)  Even though I have seen oil float on water, all my life (when I am cooking) , I still think of oil being heavier than water. It's only now I know that  I realize water is more dense than any oil. ( at the back of my mind, I still can't get rid of the idea that oil is heavier or denser especially castor oil, which is so bloody viscous!)

3) I did not know that scuba divers have weights which make them go down; that it would be impossible for them to go down without those weights.  I did not realize the extent of buoyancy of our bodies! To my 'previous' thinking, only wood and light plastics float. 

I am really enjoying my swim lessons and I hope I will be able to swim a length of the swimming pool in a year's time at least. This is one more reason, I am grateful to moving to Canada. In my home country/town, there are very few pools, too far from where I live and there are more things to put me off swimming than inspire me to learn swimming. 

Saturday, June 14, 2025

The lines from Julius Caesar I am reminded of today, the 250th year birthday of the American Army

 "...why Brutus rose against Caesar, this is my answer: not that I loved Caesar less, but that I loved Rome more...

Had you rather Caesar were living and die all slaves, than that Caesar were dead, to live all free men? As Caesar loved me, I weep for him. As he was fortunate, I rejoice at it. As he was valiant, I honor him. But, as he was ambitious, I slew him...(In the case of Trump, I would change this line to "As he was vain, I despise him; as he was a corrupt, immoral, brain-dead, greedy asshole, we should impeach him")


ANTONY

Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears.
I come to bury Caesar, not to praise him.
The evil that men do lives after them; (To wipe out the evil, Trump has done, it will take centuries!..or can never be wiped out...he has caused permanent damage to USA and the wolrd)
75The good is oft interrèd with their bones.
So let it be with Caesar. The noble Brutus
Hath told you Caesar was ambitious.
If it were so, it was a grievous fault,
And grievously hath Caesar answered it.
80Here, under leave of Brutus and the rest—
For Brutus is an honorable man;
So are they all, all honorable men—
Come I to speak in Caesar’s funeral.
He was my friend, faithful and just to me.
85But Brutus says he was ambitious,
And Brutus is an honorable man.
He hath brought many captives home to Rome
Whose ransoms did the general coffers fill.

Did this in Caesar seem ambitious?
90When that the poor have cried, Caesar hath wept.
Ambition should be made of sterner stuff.
Yet Brutus says he was ambitious,
And Brutus is an honorable man.
You all did see that on the Lupercal
95I thrice presented him a kingly crown,
Which he did thrice refuse. Was this ambition?
Yet Brutus says he was ambitious,
And, sure, he is an honorable man.
I speak not to disprove what Brutus spoke,
100But here I am to speak what I do know.
You all did love him once, not without cause. (Honestly, you must be pretty naive to have ever liked or respected Trump: he has been an asshole since his teenage years)

Tuesday, June 3, 2025

Trump could pardon Diddy.....if Trump does pardon Diddy, it shows ...Trump will sell his mother and daughters, to diseased old men, provided they pay him enough dough!

 The most bribable president of USA! Isn't he fantastic! Now, if an American has enough money, he/she can do ANYTHING with utter impunity and buy pardon from Trump! 


I wonder  how much Trump would charge a person who spat on his face? What is Trump's price for receiving spit on his face? 

Saturday, May 31, 2025

Is this real gold? I saw this on May 14, 2025 outside a house in East York, Toronto, Ontario, Canada. I am so puzzled!

 





I walked by this house and saw these, lying there. My brain thinks these are gold-painted bricks but my heart beats faster imagining these are real!

Sunday, May 25, 2025

Things which shouldn't be romanticized but are...

 I read an article in buzzfeed a couple of days ago, titled, "15 things that people think are glamorous that actually suck when you are the one living them". 

As I read this article, I realized that there are a zillion things in India which are romanticized but are, in reality, pretty awful, pathetic or underwhelming.

My list is long and I plan to keep adding to it as and when i recall them.

1) The idea of a big happy joint family, propagated by umpteen movies (Kannada and maybe movies of all languages from India. I have seen only Kannada and Hindi movies). Even if every single family member is "good" it's impossible to get along well in a large joint family where the modern values of democracy, women's equality, autonomy, freedom and independence cannot exist due to "traditional" values such as patriarchy, "respect for elders", blind obedience and zero questioning of elders, etc. I have come across miserable women from large joint families who have no say in anything in the household as they are 'youngest daughter-in-law', 'daughter of younger son in the family',  son of never-do-well-son of the family, etc. The absence of financial freedom is simply appalling.  I recall the distress of a mother, from a very rich business family, because her son who wanted to go to college was denied fees and asked to work in the family business after he finished 10th standard. many women had to hand over their salary to their husband or mother in law and then 'given' a pittance for their expenses.

2)  That village folks  and people from small towns are "more honest", more decent, etc. Crime in villages are varied and many and possibly much higher than in cities. But it's never reported, never punished, maybe not even recognized as a crime. The list is loooooooong! Exploitation of the lower caste people by upper castes. sexual assault even within families as women feel ashamed and embarrassed to report. the panchayat's blatant corruption and unfair judgement when cases come before them. It makes my blood boil, even recalling all of the crimes in villages. the crime which is affecting me personally are: 1) theft from my family's crops 2) theft of motor pumpset from 'current room'. 3) theft of fertilizer by farmmer who is supposed to fertilize your land (but he does his with your fertilizer) 4) the expectations of bribe from the bank employees in taluks, the land registration offices, etc.


3)  The poor boy meet rich girl and fall in love and marry or vice versa poor girl meet rich boy...this is the storyline in a million Indian movies.  I recall enjoying a movie in my childhood called auto raja. (rich girl and poor boy). It is simply impossible for love to thrive  when  one or both have to get used to adapting to live in a totally different (and poorer) environment. Poverty,  riches or whatever circumstances...these things affect the development of our personality, thinking, attitudes, values, etc. To then adapt to something totally different because you fell in love with someone who grew up under strikingly different circumstances is very very hard.  I now realize the impossibility of these romances.


4) Several old proverbs in local languages in India glorify values which are now considered immoral, unethical, not legal, misogynistic, etc. Yet, many people still love those proverbs and stories from the Mahabharatha, Ramayana, Panchatantra, etc and quote them. AND, expect today's people to uphold their values! I personally believe that these proverbs and stories should be BANNED. The list of antiwomen, anti lower caste, anti-democracy, anti-feminism proverbs run into hundreds of thousands...proverbs from all Indian languages. 

a female should obey her father when she is born, her husband after she marries and her son in old age is one.

a son should value his mother over his wife.

the story of Ekalavya (and his guru Dronacharya) is one which really boils my blood: a teacher's blatant nepotism and partiality is not recognized and condemned in this story. Instead a lower caste kid who "accepts & obeys instead of raising his voice against his Guru's indecent request" is glorified!

I can go on and on. But I think I made my point. 

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Wednesday, May 21, 2025

Why the b!@#$% f^&* did I vote for Mark Carney...The fool is joining in Trump's insane, "golden dome" defence.

 That Trump's thinking is more concrete than an individual with Down's syndrome is well known.

Yet, Carney, whom, I foolishly voted for, is going along with this insane president's golden dome scheme, costing billions of money paid by hardworking people of both the countries. 

The blind greed of the Republicans who chose Trump as their representative ...why did they choose him? Did they think that it's a smart idea to have a stupid, unintelligent president as it's easy to manipulate a stupid person? 


Now the entire world is stuck with this fool, intelligent, educated, creative, upright, scruplous, decent people, powerful and leaders in their own fields have to listen to this boorish, stupid, malevolent, concrete thinker...who is full of impunity and has zero decency.

Is God angry with USA? Did God think, they have dominated the world for decades and now it's time to crash them into nothing? Is that why Trump won and became a president?

Tuesday, May 20, 2025

Thanks to Trump's unbridled corruption, cowardice, stupidity, I have now lost the passion, enjoyment and interest in all American movies depicing "heroic" FBI agents, CIA agents, and so on.

 Seeing Kash Patel as director of FBI is so appalling, that I think, Hollywood needs to completely stop making their crime fiction movies. Let me explain.

I am from India. Similar movies are produced in India.. I have stopped watching Indian movies as I have zero trust in the honesty of Indian police, CBI, etc. When I watch an "honest Indian cop" in the Bolly wood movies, I simply cannot suspend my disbelief.  I feel these movies are stupid and unbelievable as there is so much corruption, that the honesty of the hero in the movie looks like complete bullshit.


On the other hand, all these years, I truly enjoyed the movies from Hollywood that is American movies USA, ( and movies from Canada and west Europe)  because I believed that these countries are not corrupt or less corrupt.   Therefore the blockbuster movies and TV shows were believable to me when they showed "heroic" police, FBI agents, etc. I was literally on the edge of my seat when watching the TV show called 24..


Now, with the vile , corrupt, asshole Trump as president, Kash Patel as FBI director, etc, there is absolutely no joy or thrill in watching Hollywood movies and American TV shows for me. Now all I can think when watching the brave hero or heroine in a Hollywood movie or American TV show is that it's bullshit. All these heros and heroines are not the real deal...these agencies, American administration and judical systems have been rendered dishonest, cowardly, vile and evil by Trump.  So any depiction of good triumphing over evil is bullshit, not believable, not true.


I spent a good deal of time 0ver the last 3 decades, enjoying these shows and movies. Now thanks to Trump, these shows have lost credibility...I mean,  I know movies and shows are just fiction, but to me, they were fiction based on some reality. I believed in the reality of a relatively ethical population, ethical system, ethical government, in the USA. With this vile president, who has contaminated everything good in USA, I can no longer  enjoy Hollywood fiction as I no longer feel that good triumphing over evil is believable in USA. 




Are Trumps kith and kin cringing OR cringing but still looting in every which way possible OR, zero cringe and 100% looting the country?

Why do TV shows and movies show people having sex in airplane bathrooms when it can barely hold one medium size person?

Thursday, May 8, 2025

Advise to Indian politicians: "We can't stop you from robbing us. When you rob us, can you please, leave us something, so that...

 Advise to Indian politicians: "We can't stop you from robbing us. When you rob us, can you please, leave us something, so that...we will not be wiped out completely...if you leave us something, we can recover, heal, work hard and rebuild our wealth...then you can rob us again. If you rob EVERYTHING, we will die and then you will not have anyone left to rob...they YOU guys will die!


I have a similar advice to Trump: If you want to destroy America because you enjoy it...go ahead. No one seems to be succeeding in stopping you. But why don't you do a "controlled destruction" instead of destroying EVERYTHING? With controlled destruction, you can have the joy of demolishing your country but also have something left to destroy later? If you destroy everything now, you will have nothing to have fun with destroying later...Think about this you asshole. This is wise advice.

Friday, May 2, 2025

Should we measure Trump's IQ or his stupidity?

 Of course, Trump's IQ should be assessed! It is extremely finite and quick and easy to measure


If you try to measure his stupidity, it would take ages! His stupidity is infinite! Every single day, I read the news, more and more, new and fresh stupidity seems to ooze...no no no...I mean floods out of his mouth.


The extent of Trump's stupidity, greed, narcissism, evil is fathomless...Don't waste your time trying to measure. You will die of exhaustion before you fully gauge his stupidity, evil , greed, unscrupulousness, shamelessness, vanity and jealousy.

Trump: the president with Infinitesimal Intelligence Quotient and Infinite  Stupidity Quotient

Wednesday, April 30, 2025

Trump: was an emperor without clothes. Now he is a TYRANT WITHOUT BALLS

 The moment Jeff Bezos/someone in Amazon  thought of listing the tariff  (that is the 'import charges on goods') on things will be listed, TRUMP, THE TYRANT, IMMEDIATELY LOST HIS BALLS  and his temper! 

TRUMP DOES NOT HAVE THE BALLS to face the public knowing the cost to them of his insane, retarded tariffs on other countries. 


WHEN WILL THIS EVIL, RETARDED, UNEDUCATED, ARROGANT TYRANT BUFFOON BE IMPEACHED OR BETTER STILL, BE KICKED OUT OF THIS WORLD FOR GOOD?????

Monday, April 21, 2025

Trump's 2025 Easter message on an Instagram post: would anyone let even a drunken 16 year old teenager rant like this in public? Or would you drag him inside and punish him?

Here is Trump's post on social media to his followers during 2025 Easter, one of the holiest days for Christians:

Happy Easter to all, including the Radical Left Lunatics who are fighting and scheming so hard to bring Murderers, Drug Lords, Dangerous Prisoners, the Mentally Insane, and well known MS-13 Gang Members and Wife Beaters, back into our Country. Happy Easter also to the WEAK and INEFFECTIVE Judges and Law Enforcement Officials who are allowing this sinister attack on our Nation to continue, an attack to violent that it will never be forgotten!"

..."Sleepy Joe Biden, THE WORST PRESIDENT IN THE HISTORY OF THE UNITED STATES, has allowed millions and millions of Criminals, many of them murderers, drug dealers, and people released from prisons and mental institutions from all around the world, to enter our Country through it’s very dangerous and ill conceived Open Border. Sorry, but it’s my job to get these killers and thugs out of here. THAT’S WHAT I GOT ELECTED TO DO. MAGA!"

HOW DID THIS DERANGED LUNATIC  GET ELECTED AS THE PRESIDENT OF UNITED STATED OF  AMERICA? ARE ALL  AMERICANS DERANGED?  

THE VOTERS WHO VOTED THIS LOON  ARE DERANGED? 

OR

 HE WAS THE BEST AND OTHERS WERE EVEN CRAZIER THAN HIM TO STAND FOR PRESIDENCY?


Friday, April 18, 2025

New Tricks

It's April 18, 10.25 am, Toronto .

The weather is gloomy: cool , cloudy and looks like rain today.

I have a 4 day long weekend: Good Friday, weekend and Easter Monday.

My husband is snoring away in his bed...recovering from a cold

I have finished my part, doing the damn taxes!

Watching New Tricks on Britbox and enjoying it now...without feeling guilty about 'wasting time' instead of 'doing something useful'.

I have not checked the news today...I am so sick of what's happening in the world and seeing family and friends on the precarious edge of impending unemployment.

Despite the cold and clouds , 'New Tricks' is keeping me cosy, entertained and relaxed in bed.

May this feeling never end!


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June 13, Friday: 2025

Professional development day ...so I am at home

Lovely day outside in Toronto 16 degrees celcius...quiet (except for the hum of the light mid-day traffic outside my home)...lunch (hot chappatis with  chicken tandoori and beans, carrot, potato palya followed by a desert: banana with perfect degree of ripeness)...watched the 5th episode of Duster.

It's lovely to watch this show...this summer sunshine and heat goes with this Arizona show.  The music, the plot, the clothes of that period...all make me feel so mellow and good!

Saturday, April 12, 2025

Arab DJ music in the west

 I enjoy the brief DJ music videos which come on facebook (reels).

These days I am seeing quite a bit of DJ Arab music from the west. I  feel a vague sense of guilt that the western women ( that is women in the European and American countries) are enjoying this...women and men here are dancing freely to this music while women from  Arab countries i.e. Arab women and women other countries such as Afghanistan are not able to enjoy this music and are not allowed to dance...with the same freedom (by freedom I mean in public places, parties and without the concealing clothes).

The west is enjoying something from Arab culture while Arab women cannot enjoy their own culture.

I dont blame the west of course. I am grateful and enjoying the Arab DJ stuff. It is a cruel shame that men and governments restrict their own womenfolk for no valid reason in these patriarchal societies.

Friday, March 28, 2025

After the daily shit-storm of Trump's evil, I am retreating into the world of decency of inspector Crabbe of Pie in the sky

 If Americans copy Trump's morals and behaviours, then, they will have to seek decency only in fictional movies, shows and novels. They will perhaps take videos of ordinary decent behaviours of people in foreign countries they visit and as it's rare or impossible to find in USA! They will be fascinated by simple ordinary decency, courtesy, manners, gentleness, integrity, honesty... and find normal behaviours AMAZING!

They may take videos of people 'NOT' grabbing ...normal, ordinary behaviours for most countries but a rare, fascinating phenomenon for Americans, who are used to grabbers...starting with their president!

Does Vance expect the red carpet when he visits Greenland ...after Trump saying America will invade Greenland? He should be beaten with slippers the momeny he lands ...fucking assholes of America.

Thursday, March 13, 2025

Thursday, March 6, 2025

Trump & Musk: Two buckets of feces defiling the White House...when will the Americans put shit where shit should be

Censuring Al Green : It's like accusing a robbery victim of being "rude" when he protests to being robbed...or accusing a rape victim of 'troubling' her rapist by fighting back

 Will the shithead Trump, ever allow anyone with a different opinion to voice their concerns? NEVER

Therefore Al Green, HAD, to interrupt to say what he wants to...waiting politely for a chance to voice an opinion, contradicting Trump...you will have to wait till the end of eternity. 


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How come, no one has the balls to "censure" Trump and everyone is expected to bend over and take it, POLITELY, WITHOUT PROTEST,  whatever SHIT he comes up with?


If God truly exists, he will end Trump, before Trump ends America and the whole world...


Maybe, it is time for the world to end. And Trump and Musk are the harbingers of death to ALL life .

I wish to God that they die first...instead of causing death of millions of innocents.

I am skipping reading the news of Trump and Musk's ruthless, brain-dead, never-the-less damaging antics and finding solace in my old favorite crime fiction: Abe Lieberman series by Stuart Kaminsky

How many of Musk's children have inherited his "autism", substance abuse and character defects?

 Musk has claimed that he is autistic.

He knows it can be passed on through genes (assuming he is literate and intelligent and reads at least a little to understand his own diagnsis)

He knows autism is linked with other psychiatric disorders such as ADHD.

He is a known substance abuser

He should know (but is in denial) that substance abuse too is linked to other psychiatric illnesses and the effect of substance use on someone with autism is worse


YET, he goes around fathering children like a reckless rabbit!

The world has to put up with his 15 potentially defective kids...

these (rich-)poor kids  are also facing the challenge of growing up fatherless (he's too busy distributing his sperm and destroying America...he does not have enough time to be with his kids) during their childhood years...growing fatherless leads to another shitload of psychological and psychiatric issues...

Why has he hidden these kids from public eye? 


I am going into a deep sleep...wake me when Trump and Musk are dead

Sunday, March 2, 2025

Trump's golden visa scheme to attrach Russian Oligarchs: will benefit Putin: the oligarchs will fall out of windows in America...far from Russia.. Putin will not be accused of their murder

 I recall , a few years ago, two Russian oligarchs, Vladimer Bidenov and Pavel Antov, who died in India.

If this golden visa is accepted by oligarchs, hoping to escape from Putin to the USA, they should recall that buying their way  into USA does not mean, a guaranteed long and blissful life.

DOGE guys, (working under Musk, who is either directing or being directed by Trump)  are  apparently handling all the federal data in USA ...it's likely they will pass on the information about these oligarchs, for a price to the Russian government... which will then probably help them to push up daisies.

5 million dollars to buy a way into USA and maybe an early way to heaven!


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5 million is chump change for the gangsters of the world///Italian mafia, Mexican cartel leaders, etc...Trump is rolling out the red carpet to USA for these guys with his golden visa.

What are the things Trump and Musk are allergic to? They are allergic to every single good character trait, humans and animals have

 Trump and Musk allergy list

The shitty president of the USA & Musk-who-licks Trump's-unwashed-ass are severely deficient in the  "good human's traits" listed below.

Decency, behaving dignified, Morals, Ideals, Truth

Loftiness, Sincerity,Mission, vision and values

Conscientiousness, gentleness, good taste, good judgement, Reliability

Virtue, Sophistication, Level-headedness, Logic, TACT

Accurate perception, Scientific approach, Thoughtfulness, Nobility, HONOUR

Peace, TRUSTWORTHINESS, Kindness, Humanity, INTELLIGENCE

COMMON SENSE, Creativity, Politeness, courtesy, grace

HUMILITY, Empathy & sympathy, Generosity, Keeping promises

RESPONSIBILITY, Honesty, Shame, Erudition, Scholarship

Hard work (they take short cuts and crash over and over but never learn that it takes time to achieve success

Respect for women, children, non white people, foreigners

Refinement and class, Diplomacy, Being constructive, being creative

BEING ARTICULATE





Musk and the farmers

 Musk: How ya all doing?

Farmers: Taking it easy, Mr. Musk. It's winter. The fileds are bare and snow's on the ground. We will get busy soon, anyway. Come spring, back to the grind.

Musk: What did ya all do last week. 

Farmers: You know...what we do every winter. manage livestock...that's a year long thing. Plan for the year's crops. Repair the farm equipment. Spend sometime with our wives and kids and take them places..It's so rare that we have the money and time at the same time to enjoy vacations!

Musk: hmmm...You mean you take the entire winter off? No work? And you want subsidies from the government to help, pardon my language, you lazy idling bums?

Farmers: Of course not! Do you have any idea about farming, Mr.Musk? Why don't you spend some time on a farm and get to understand before you cut the subsidies? 

Musk: I have seen enough. I have heard enough. I am asking our president to cut all subsidies . YOu guys dont need them. All you need to do is do real work...like our president and me

 

Musk and Michelangelo

 Musk: Hi

Michelangelo(M): Hi

Musk: What do you do?

M: sculptures

Musk: How long do you take to do one.

M:It depends

Musk: I need a definite answer. 

M: The answer is still the same.

Musk: I will be back next week and I will be checking on the progress

M: Whatever.

A week passes

Musk: Hi M. I don't see what you did in one week. This thing looks exactly the same.

M: Yeah.  I been thinking. About how to angle David's hands. I think I have got it now.

Musk: Yeah. Maybe. But I dont see any progress in this statue. You have done nothing for a week. 

We don't need you.  Get lost buddy! We can't keep getting robbed by the likes of idle workers like you!

I would like to meet the person(s) or organization who are behind the unreplicable, bespoke stupidity and evil of Trump, Musk and Vance.

Who is behind this unique bespoke stupidity and evil?

Where do they get their ideas and inspiration?

Are all MAGA people getting bespoke stupidity and rabidity or just the generic stupidity and evil?

Is bespoke stupidity only for the trash at the White House? Not meant for the masses ?

Saturday, March 1, 2025

Father of Kurt Wallander of the Henning Mankell series ...painting the same thing over and over...was it his escape from his world?

 This is another anti-Trump, anti-Musk rant of mine.

My go-to place when I want to escape the ugly realities of the world is into day-dreaming or fantasy. Years ago, I had at least 3-4 fantasies and I would go into one of them. These days, it is a single fantasy, which I go to, for escape. Sometimes, I make minor tweaks in the fantasy and at other times, simply go through the same fantasy (or plot or story or idea...you can call it anything) in my head. The changes or tweaks are usually to incorporate something I saw or read or myself created.

After indulging in this fantasy for a while (few to several minutes) I am ready to go back to the real world and do whatever needs to be done...work, meetings, chores, whatever needs doing.

Today, I suddenly recalled the father of  Kurt Wallander ( a fictional detective from Sweden... one of my favorite series) who, painted sunsets over and over again, in every book that he appears. The paintings were the same ...sunsets with grouse or sunsets without grouse. Years ago, when I read the books, I thought, this old man is untalented or crazy...who will paint the same thing over and over...

When I observe myself these days,  fantasizing the same plot over and over, I realize that I am exactly like that old man who painted the same thing again and again.  The fantasy, which I am stuck on,  is very calming.To fantasize new plots, I have to "work hard to create". This involved effort and I think I can put in the effort only if I am inspired by an idea and  I am also having the mood and energy to create.   

I am going through the same old fantasy, over and over again, to calm down.  Going through the same old plot serves to reduce my anger, frustration, boredom, sadness...whatever negative emotion I am experiencing. 

Wallander's dad painting the same thing over and over...I no longer think he was crazy or untalented. I think, we need, we all need, something to get away from unpleasant reality and then return, calmer and replenished to deal with the draining realities of the world.

the inspector Lynley mysteries (on Britbox) is a balm to my soul...Lynley's gentle refined pleasant behavior is the dead opposite of the White House boor's. It's is so healing to watch, after the daily onslaught of Trump news

Friday, February 28, 2025

an individual with Down's syndrome can lead the USA into a path of peace and prosperity. Trump, the gutter-spawn is leading the USA into a cesspool of deceit, selfishness and decline

AMERICANS, PLEASE KICK TRUMP AND MUSK OUT OF THE WHITE HOUSE AND INTO THE GUTTER WHERE THE BELONG

How Trump and Musk's behaviour reminds me of the Pandavas helpless inaction during Draupadi's Vastraharan

 I recall crying and angry when I read the chapter of Draupadi's vastraharan in the Mahabarata.

I recall wondering why the 5 husbands of Draupadi, who are supposedly brave Kshatriya warriors , sat silently, not helping their wife as she was shamelessly humiliated by Dusshasana in the court of Duryodhana.

Today, when I read about the shameful treatment of Zelensky by Trump and nobody having the guts to call out Trump's disgusting bullying behaviour, I recall the Pandavas inept silence and inaction as their wife was disrobed in public by the evil Dusshasana. 


Hopefully, Trump will get his punishment (death) soon.

Shame on the Americans tolerating Trump's disgusting behaviour.

TRUMP AND MUSK ARE WHITE TRASH SOILING THE WHITE HOUSE!

THE SOONER THESE WHITE TRASH ARE REMOVED, THE SOONER THE WHITE HOUSE CAN BECOME A DECENT PLACE AGAIN

Wednesday, February 26, 2025

2 weeks ago I subscribed to Britbox...because I was sick of the Trump-Musk news and needed a break ...before I went mad with despair

 I have often been tempted to subscribe to more  shows ( I had only netflix till recently) by subscribing to things like Amazon prime, HBO, etc. 

But I always avoided subscribing as I thought I would get addicted...I thought I will finally subscribe multiple channels after I retire....I thought it would be hedonistic and vaguely felt it wrong to watch too many shows. 

However, since Trump got elected and I kept seeing on the news, on the internet, newspapers, magazines, simply, "everywhere".. his brazen theft, boasting, abusing his power and people suffering due to him...I started feeling so sick...I needed to escape..


So I subscribed to Britbox

Now I watch news a little less.

I am more at peace...actually not really...how can I be at peace, when I see those two evil shit-heads setting the world on fire


These are the shows which are taking me, for an hour or so at a time, away from the evil horror created by those two pieces of human feces.


Death in paradise

Shakespeare and Hathaway Liked the main characters a lot!

The inspector Lynley mysteries :Liked the main characters a lot!

Mc Donald & Dodds: Liked the main characters a lot!

Are you being served

Lewis

Father Brown

The Mallorca files

Vera

Sister Bonniface mysteries

Ballykissangel

Pie in the sky: My favorite!!!

Beyond paradise

Death Valley (this is new//only a couple of episodes...i love it)

It is such a soothing experience to watch these shows..where the characters are so charming, soft-spoken, polite, humane, classy, refined, elegant...everything that crass, clueless, arrogant, ignorant bumpkin lording over America is NOT!


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shows from crave I like


Southern fried lies: seen one episode (I pray that it is free and I can see all the episodes.)

Duster: seen two episodes (I pray that it is free and I can see all the episodes.)

Bookie 

started "this city is ours" (Crave on bell connection): I hope 1) that I can see all episodes (sometimes only first episode comes on and I cant see the rest as I have not subscribed to crave) 2) I hope it's good 3) I hope it's not too bleak, dark, etc...with all the shit in the world, thanks to Trump, Putin, Israel, etc...I can't take dystopia in entertainment world too!  I want light-hearted and funny and sweet and 'decent' and 'gentle'.


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shows from netflix I am enjoying now

She the people

Saturday, February 22, 2025

RAILROADING ...NAME OF THE GAME OF MUSK AND TRUMP: HOPE THE PEOPLE REFUSE TO BE RAILROADED...ESPECIALLY THE JUSTICE DEPT

Producers of TV and movies now need to reverse the type of shows they make: hero killing the villainous US president instead of saving him.

 It's 2025 and we have knaves and ass-licking liars in the white house. 

So, it's impossible for the writers to create credible plots about  heros (agents from FBI, CIA,  police men and women, detectives, etc) "saving" the United States president today .


Now, the writers need to turn  plots on their heads completely...to make the shows bearable to watch.

We need hero-assassins killing the president to save the country

the plot should be one where, the protagonist has to save the country NOT from, Russia or ISIS or Al Qaeda...but  from the country's knave president!


The writers need to change the stories now ...if they want people to watch the shows.


Once upon a time, I really enjoyed watching the TV show 24.

Now , such a show can never be made again... such a tragedy.

The knave and the asslicker have killed future TV show and movie plots for me.

Damn these two soulless, heartless, brainless, evil shits.


If it saves the country, it's not illegal...then it's definitely not illegal to kill Trump!

 You will not be saving one country ...you will be saving the world!

You will be saving the planet..saving women, coloured folks, animals, birds, flora and fauna!

Terminating Trump and Musk ...is the need of the day



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If it saves the country, Canada to kill Trump...it's not illegal

If it saves the country, Mexico to kill Trump, it's not illegal

If it saves Greenland to kill Trump, it's not illegal

If it saves THE COUNTRY, USA to kill Trump, by Trump's own words, IT'S NOT ILLEGAL.

Friday, February 21, 2025

What happens to Musk if ... God, please DON'T forbid, Trump meets his maker, Satan by the end of this year?

 If Trump, dies, I am sure Musk will crown himself as king of America as he already looks  and acts like the heir-apparent .

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And what will happen to the dementing evil-devil, Trump, if Musk suddenly ceased to exist? 

Who is going to take  the place of Musk? Barron? any of the others spawn of the devil Trump?  Or will it be Zuckerberg? Or will it be an elected  Republican?


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Will Trump be assasinated by Musk ...as Musk simply can't he wait to get into Trump's shoes ...wait until Trump gets out of them?


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Will Trump get fed up of Musk and ...oops drop him out of the penthouse of the Empire State building?

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Did Trump screw Musk's mother 54 years ago...and now he's gifting his bastard son with keys to unlimited access to American wealth?

El Bandido Elon and El Cheapo Trump: Why are these " billionaires" taking money away from people and projects? To line their bottomless pockets?

A brain-dead, retarded, senile wolf like Trump is still a wolf...mad, dangerous and now he has Musk, a younger wolf to help him kill the sheep not just in USA but all over the world!

Americans should stop worrying about enemies coming from Russia or China to attack them...they have the two cats Trump and Musk eating them alive

 In fact, Russia and China have caused much less havoc on the US people in decades than these two have destroyed America in 30 days! 

The mottos of Trump and Musk

 Below are the mottos of the shit-eating president Trump and his ass-kissing servant Musk

Truth is precious: don't use it up. Keep it safe and locked up

Decency is a heinous crime. Don't commit it.

Wrong is right. Right is wrong. 

Might is right.  

Robbery, theft, daylight dacoity is the way to go for the American Republicans

Use people...like soldiers, working class like toilet paper : then discard them exactly like toilet paper

Dont be like Jesus. Be a Judas. Judas is the person Trump and Musk, will worship and follow.



Should the Dept of Justice seek the death penalty for Trump and Musk for their heinous crimes against humanity, Americans and the world? YES! YES! YES!

The Department of Justice will seek the death penalty as the appropriate punishment for heinous crimes against humanity, including those who kill law enforcement officers and illegal migrants who maim and murder Americans.... THIS STATEMENT IS FROM President Trump's America First Policies (January 20, 2025 briefings and statements )


If this is really true, the department of justice SHOULD seek the death penalty for President Trump and His servant Musk as the appropriate punishment for heinous crimes  against humanity, against Americans!


Trump and Musk talk

 Trump: I am now the king of America. 

Musk: Yes, Mr. President

Trump: No. Dont call me Mr. President. Henceforth you will address me as My Lord.

Musk: Yes, of course my lord

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Trump: I am now the king of America.

Musk: Yes my lord.

Trump: As king, it's beneath me to wipe ass , even mine.

Musk: I completely agree my lord.

Trump: Then I need someone to wipe my ass..

Musk: I will find someone to do that my lord. Maybe one of the Republican senators?

Trump: Why don't you wipe my ass ? You are with me all the time, you may as well do it.

Musk: But, I am over-qualified for the job my lord.

Trump: I don't care! Damn it! I want YOU to wipe my ass!

Musk: hmmm...I will think about it my lord.

Trump: You know what....Putin was telling me how he deals with  billionaires who got cocky

Musk: What do you mean ?  I mean, what do you mean my lord ?

Trump: You will be flying out a window without a parachute is what I mean

Musk: I will be glad to wipe your royal buttocks my lord! It's an honour! Thank you my lord!

Thursday, February 20, 2025

Americans need the balls of Muntadhar-Al-Zaidi to deal with their shitty president...

 You fucking REPUBLICANS WITHOUT BALLS....  Are you ready to sacrifice your country and country men for wealth?

 With your shit-for-brains president flushing USA down the toilet as you sit  doing nothing, you won't have anyplace to go after he's flushed away everything good in your country.

After Trump's done looting others, he will come after you!

Wake up you fucking Republicans and do something to stop this piece-of-feces-president from burning up the country!


Democracy is dead in America! Killed by the naked emperor who's in love with his beautiful clothes!

Have the republicans and Musk of course, developed a taste for Trump's fecal matter after all that ass kissing and now prefer feces to food?

Will Trump divide the huge amount of wealth he is stealing from Americans among his 5 kids? Can Musk loot a trillion to give his 13 plus kids a few billion each?

The USA owned by Trump ... he thinks he owns it (the Americans are asleep or going along with his claim..) is being sold for pennies on the dollar to Musk!

Did Trump's parents get plastic surgery done to his eyes when he was a baby...because he was born with Down's? Very likely yes

 He has the intellectual capacity of that disabled group...but lacks their  amiability or any of the good traits of that group of individuals.

The asshole Trump, drunk with power, said, "The world is my tinderbox...I will to see how fast it burns".

Wednesday, February 19, 2025

When will Trump and his ass-kisser Musk, start selling pardons to criminals for money? By March 2025?

 The Catholic church in the 11th and 12th centuries sold 'indulgences' for money.

Since Trump is on his rampage of destroying all the good things and people and encouraging criminals, I am betting he will start selling pardons for money.

He is now poking is nose in Romania's business and asking them to "relax" travel restrictions against Tate and his brother! Support for these rapists indicates he and Musk are themselves rapists.

Sunday, February 16, 2025

If the president-who-shits-through-his-mouth means what he says... that "it's okay to break the law to save his country" ...then maybe it's okay to destroy the president to save the country from this mouth-shitter

The wires connecting Trump's brain and tongue are disconnected...therefore the words coming out of his mouth are rubbish

 Trump's tongue runs on like wheels rolling down the hill... after they get detached from a moving car...free tires running on and on with no direction or purpose...meaninglessly rolling down in whatever direction...whatever way.


How long  will  this unhinged moron continue to lead America? Where will the American ship go ...with this no-brain, mental, blind, deaf, shitty president as captain ?


Can someone PLEASE verify Trump knows at least a tiny bit  about a topic  like trade deficits before he open his mouth and shits about it???

Tuesday, February 11, 2025

What is SHIT-FOR-BRAINS Trump thinking, offering asylum to Afrikaners in USA?

 Afrikaners, whites from Europe, who colonized south Africa...stole land from the natives and colonized south africa....

Trump wants to offer these Afrikaners asylum in USA as he thinks they are getting robbed of 'their' land!

Does Trump eat so much shit daily that some of it is now in his brains?

Dear God, when will the world be rid of Trump ?!?!

I am waiting for the day he dies...to celebrate by drinking and dancing and pissing on his grave


Never did I had this much of  rage in me!


Trump VS Musk...

 Who is richer? Trump or Musk?

MUSK

Who is brighter? Trump or Musk?

MUSK

Who is younger? Trump or Musk?

MUSK

Who is more powerful? Trump or Musk?

TRUMP

Who is a bigger megalomaniac, egotist, inhumane, immoral, ruthless, liar, thief, fraud, thug?

TRUMP AND MUSK...it's a tie!

Won't Musk, at some point in time, (sooner than later),  get fed up up kissing the Trump rump and oust him and seize power himself???

Will Trump take a page from Putin's book and get rid of Musk or vice versa???

We have to wait till the end of 2025 and see how this horror story (unfortunately not fiction) grows.






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